June's Retreat Gently Does It is all about taking a step back and adopting a more gently approach to life and getting things done.
What comes to mind when you think of living more gently?
Perhaps open skies, quiet, nature, maybe some yoga, meditation and general calm.
What probably doesn’t come to mind is a long commute, a crying baby, long sleepless nights, an argument and anxiety.
And which type of living would you prefer? Probably the first, right? But how possible does it feel?
I hear you.
So what if we could find some calm, a sense of balance or peace even in the latter scenario?
Last week marked Maternal Mental Health Awareness week which saw so many fantastic social media campaigns such as Shoulty Selfie by Mummylinks, There for Her by The No Filter Mum, Depression Wears Lipstick by Lobella Loves and What I'd Give A New Mum by Amy Ransom. Of all of the campaigns, What I'd Give A New Mum resonated with me the most. This was because as a Mum of older chidlren there were things I didn't have, that would have made such a difference to the transition of becoming a first or even second time mum. This campaign really got me thinking about what I would give a new Mum and there are 3 things.
Support, we all need it even when we don't realise it. But there's one time in our lives that we need it most as women and that's as we become mothers for the first, second, third or any time. I've been fortunate to have the support of my Mum and Mother In Law to get me through for the first few months after the birth of both children, but so many women have no support and find the first few weeks and months difficult. Well help is out there in the form of Doulas.
What's a doula I hear you ask? Well that's a very good question. A Doula is someone who provides mothers with support during or after birth and also provide support to the mother's family. Yes, they exist! I'm of the opinion that all mothers should have one to get them through the first few days and even months of the birth of a baby.
Today's Mama who's sharing her Mama Power - Support is Sarah Tessier who's a doula and who so kindly educated me on exactly what a doula is and why new mums need them. Sarah shares her story of what led her to become a Doula and her passion to support other mothers early in their journey.
It's Mother's day and today is all about celebrating and showing appreciation for Mums everywhere. How we show appreciation varies immensely but what matters is that we tell our Mums that we love them.
As a Mum, I look forward to Mother's day a lot every year, not only because it's a day the children make a big effort to spoil me, but it's one of the few days in the year that I do nothing. Yep, nothing. I don't lift a finger at home, unless of course I'm spoiling my Mum! But usually I'm off duty which means no cooking, no cleaning, no washing up, and definitely no laundry and it's always a great day. By declaring myself off duty and sticking to it, I realised that it's another form of self care, not only through the lack of action but honoring the decision to take a break.
How often do we honour ourselves in ways that help us to recharge and nourish our minds bodies and spirits? Probably not enough. 98% of the ladies who attend Space Retreats say that they occasionally or never take time for themselves which is a scary number. It does make me feel a bit better though as I did wonder in the past if I was the only one who found Motherhood all consuming at the expense of ourselves.
Today's Mama Power - Selfcare is vital as a Mum and a woman and who better to share her experiences of motherhood and self care than Suzy Reading, author and Physchologist.
A mother's body and mind is unique, we go through so many changes both physical and mental during and after pregnany it's no wonder we question whether many of the changes are normal. For mothers to thrive and be the best mothers we can be, we need to look after all of ourselves from our minds to our bodies. One woman has taken this as her mission, to bring wellness to mothers everywhere and naturally it was only right that her Mama Power - Wellness was included as part of our series.
It's the first day of March and Spring is somewhere on the horizon, although right now it's hard to believe. It's also the month that we celebrate Mother's Day. I've decided that it's time to claim March to be the month of Mums. Yes, a whole month to celebrate Mums. We're to be loved and appreciated life not just for Mother's day. So why not start with ourselves from one mother to another. In the true spirit of Motherhood there's enough love to go around and I think it's only right that we celebrate our greatness and power.
It's time to celebrate the power of mothers to be gentle yet tough. To give love whilst roughing it and going without. To gift kindness often lacking in our own self kindness. To give our hearts, bodies, minds and attention to our children at the cost of our own. Building our children up, often whilst trying to rebuild ourselves at the same time. We are powerful yet it's so easy for us to forget as we're become by daily life.
Join our amazing mothers as they share their journeys of motherhood and the power they've found as a result.
It can be tough being a Mum with a young child, I remember it well. Your little one is like your shadow, they're everywhere you turn. They're still finding their feet literally, and you're their world. It's a full on, never ending, full time (with overtime) job.
You're probably wondering where I'm coming from with this and may be wondering what the power of three is. Well it's my holy trinity of Mind, Body and Spirit that when working together and in balance make us unstoppable. But what needs to happen for this to take place?