It's the first day of March and Spring is somewhere on the horizon, although right now it's hard to believe. It's also the month that we celebrate Mother's Day. I've decided that it's time to claim March to be the month of Mums. Yes, a whole month to celebrate Mums. We're to be loved and appreciated life not just for Mother's day. So why not start with ourselves from one mother to another. In the true spirit of Motherhood there's enough love to go around and I think it's only right that we celebrate our greatness and power.
It's time to celebrate the power of mothers to be gentle yet tough. To give love whilst roughing it and going without. To gift kindness often lacking in our own self kindness. To give our hearts, bodies, minds and attention to our children at the cost of our own. Building our children up, often whilst trying to rebuild ourselves at the same time. We are powerful yet it's so easy for us to forget as we're become by daily life.
Join our amazing mothers as they share their journeys of motherhood and the power they've found as a result.
zoe blaskey - motherkind
Our first Mama who will be sharing her journey of Motherhood her Mama Power - Kindness, in particular self kindness is Zoe Blaskey.
Zoe is a motherhood wellbeing coach, meditation teacher, founder of Motherkind and host of The Motherkind Podcast. Zoe is Mum to Jessie who is 2.
What have been your triumphs and challenges during motherhood so far?
It is, without a doubt the biggest learning experience of my life. My triumphs have been looking after myself mentally and physically, being fully present with Jessie when I'm with her, being kind to myself and letting of comparison with other mums (most of the time...), accepting Jessie exactly as she is, oh and that her favourite food is broccoli (for now!). My main challenges have been with boundaries - setting them and holding them - it comes from a need to be liked and I've had to work on some deep-rooted beliefs that I can say no, be clear and consistent, risk her being upset and still be loved. And tiredness, I really struggled in the first year with that. But then who doesn't?!
What drew you to focus on mother's kindness and wellbeing?
It was my experience of really struggling with the early months of motherhood and realising I could apply my coach and meditation training to help mums who might be feeling the same. The one thing I heard time and time again was mum's beating themselves up for not being 'good' enough often manifesting in guilt and anxiety - so I decided on the name Motherkind and I believe we all need to be much kinder to ourselves.
What would you say to your pre-mum self now?
I would tell her she's going to be a great mum, that it's not going to be easy but she's going to learn exactly what she needs to all in the right time. Oh, and that the experience will lead to an amazing, soul-fulfilling project called Motherkind (she would never have predicted that!)
How has selfkindness and wellness helped you as a Mum?
It helps me all day, every day. I see every moment as an opportunity to connect with my true self, to learn more about myself through my reactions to Jessie, to be kind to myself by being aware of my inner critic and replacing it with my kindness mantra 'I am enough'. I know that I'm a work in progress and I'm doing the best I can, with what I have, every day. I'm generally a pretty calm, connected, happy mum and when I'm not I know that's ok too.
Find out more about Motherkind and Zoe's motherhood journey at the next Space Retreat All Mothered Up.